All Those Dead Babies

Posted November 18, 2008 by suhailalgosaibi
Categories: Fitness/Health

An article in the Gulf Daily News caught my attention recently.  It was published on 11th of November.

The article mentions that Bahrain’s birth rate is falling, and infant mortality (death) rate is increasing.  Apparently, still births increased from 6.2 out of 1000 in 2006, to 7.4 in 2007.
Also, the of premature infant born rate rose from 102.6 per 1,000 live births to 110.  There was also an increase in the number of dead foetuses (prenatal mortality rate.)  Further, the overall infant mortality rate increased from 7.6 in 2006 to 8.3 last year.

Lastly, the number of mothers dying during child birth increased from 13.3 in 2006, to 18.8 last year.

These statistics really caught my eye.  First of all, they are nothing less than shocking!  Here we are, in the 21st century, with all this modern science and technology, and the latest medical break-throughs, and our infant mortality rates are going up!

Welcome to the century of the dead babies!  How sad…

How can this be??

Well, I think I know why.  Here’s my two cents on the subject.

Though we are living in a technologically advanced era, we are probably the unhealthiest we’ve been in a very long time.  We humans were just not meant to be as sedentary as we are today.  All we do is sit and eat.  People take better care of their cars than they do of their bodies.

Most Bahrainis will spend hours and hours sitting behind a desk at work, then they’ll go home, and sit hours and hours in front of the TV.  And all they eat all day is junk food - crisps, candy, fizzy drinks, burgers, hot dogs, ice cream, candy and so on.

If memory serves me correctly, we’re the fourth most obese country in the GCC.  By the way, it wasn’t mentioned in the GDN article, but Bahrain’s level of Type 2 (late onset) diabetes is also on the rise.

Well, what kind of quality sperm and eggs will these overweight, unfit and unhealthy people produce?  I’ll tell you, very week ones.  The baby never even had a chance.  And those that do survive birth (a birth loaded with chemicals and pain-killers) can look forward to a poor diet from them moment they’re born until their slow, agonising death.

I don’t mean to be offensive here, but it’s the truth, and the truth hurts sometimes.  Healthy people produce healthy babies [all other things being equal], and unhealthy, overweight people risk pregnancy complications, birth complications, and a sickly child.

If you don’t have children yet, and you’re considering conceiving, here are some tips for you.

- Exercise!
I don’t care how much you hate it, or how much you try to convince yourself that you don’t have time to exercise, you have to do it!  It’s not really a choice - you don’t have time not to exercise.  Oh, and you can’t start after you’re pregnant, it’s too late then.  Start before, and make it a life long habit.  Exercise at the very least three times a week - forever.

- Eat right!
Look, if you don’t make these changes for you, then do it for the baby!  Being unfit and unhealthy and having babies is being really selfish.  It shocks me how few people make the connection between their pre-birth lifestyle and the many health problems their baby has.  It’s all connected.

Eat breakfast, lunch and dinner.  And have one or two small snacks in between.  Include fresh fruits and vegetables, nuts and seeds.

- Cut out milk!
“What??”, I hear you say, “milk??” Yes, you heard that correctly, cut out milk.  In fact cut out dairy all together!  I know I know, milk is supposed to be healthy and good for us, but that’s just not true.  It’s probably the modern era’s greatest myth.  In the dark ages people thought that the earth was the centre of the universe, and those who opposed these thoughts were threatened with torture or death.

Of course, time proved that these progressive thinkers were right.  Well, thinking that milk is necessary for us the equivalent of thinking the earth is the centre of the universe - or that the earth is flat for that matter

Think about it, when’s the last time you saw an adult walk up to his mother and drink her milk?  I hope never, right?

Think about this, when’s the last time you saw a fully grown cow walk up to it’s mother and drink her milk?  Never, right?  Did you know that humans are the only animals on the planet that continue to drink milk as adults? And another animal’s milk for that matter.  Think about it.

Well if cows don’t drink each other’s milk, why are you doing it?

We humans do need milk, for about the first two years of our life, and then should not be drinking it.  I can feel your discomfort with what I’m saying.  Don’t take my word for it, look up Robert Cohen, author of Milk, The Deadly Poison .  He can explain this a lot better than I can.

Milk The Deadly Poison


- Kill The Playstation!
This is more relevant for people who already have kids.  If you already have kids, you don’t want them to turn into lazy, overweight, uncoordinated adults.  I strongly encourage you to either take away video consoles, or be very strict about how much time they can spend on them.  Children should be running and moving a lot.  If they don’t do this in their childhood they won’t do it as adults.  You don’t want them to contribute to future mortality figures.

- Stop Smoking!
You already know the risks of cancer etc. associated with smoking, so you don’t need me to lecture you about it.  If you don’t want to quit, do it for your kids.  The sperms and eggs you produce will be second rate if you’re hooked on the devil’s stink-me-up-and-turn-my-teath-yellow death stick.

Look, I’ve seen people I care about die slowly because of their weight and unhealthy lifestyle.  You’re not going to live forever, and if you think you’ll take care of your health when you’re older it’ll probably be too late by then.

Your health and weight will make a huge difference in the last ten to twenty years of your life.  I heard the legendary Dr Kenneth Cooper (the inventor of the word “aerobics”) say that healthy people live long lives and just “drop off.”  They die a quick, painless death.  Whereas unhealthy people have a gradual decline in health, and usually die a slow, prolonged death.

The choice is yours my friend.

Canary Update - She’s Eating From My Hand…

Posted November 6, 2008 by suhailalgosaibi
Categories: Personal/Family, The Canary Chronicles

I got Cookie (my new canary) to eat from my hand!  Here are two quick videos.  Okay, in the videos she’s not actually eating, but she was just until I took out my mobile phone to film her.  I was wondering why she stopped eating when filming and I later realised my phone has a flash light that’s turns on when I use the video.  No wonder she looked kind of spooked.

Anyway, here are the videos. Enjoy :)

My Health Problems - And What You Can Learn From Them

Posted October 29, 2008 by suhailalgosaibi
Categories: Fitness/Health, Personal/Family, Success

I’m not sure when it started… I guess it was a gradual process over several years, but it started getting worse over that last 18 months or so.

I noticed that I get dehydrated quickly, and without warning.  It happened to me several times right after sparring.  I’d feel extremely tired and nauseous after an intense sparring session. Sometimes I’d have to lie down.  It was really scary how severe it was, and how quickly it could happen.  I’ve even written about it in one of the Zen-Do Times newsletter issues.

Though I was annoyed and surprised by it, I didn’t take it very seriously.  I just assumed that I wasn’t taking in enough water, and that I was one of those people who just dehydrated easily.

I got another dehydration “attack” this summer when flying with my aunt in a glider.  The experience in the glider was wonderful but, again I got a bout of dehydration and I asked my aunt to land the plane.  I felt nauseous, tired and exhausted.  I had to lie down for a bit and drink lots of water.

I later had a chat with her husband, who’s a doctor. He told me that it wasn’t normal to dehydrate so quickly and easily.  He asked me if I felt extremely thirsty before it happens, and I told him that I did feel some thirst, but not that much.  I also told him that it happened to me several times during sparring.  He told me that this was definitely not normal, and that my body should feel a lot of thirst first, and would need to stop exercising before the dehydration and collapse set in.

He said there might be something wrong with my kidneys, and suggested I have them checked.  Well, I saw a doctor in Bahrain a couple of months later and explained the whole story to him.  The doctor took some blood and urine samples and said he’d get back to me.

The Strange Results

He called me a few days later and told me he had the results…. he told me I was in perfect health and that my cholesterol levels were some of the best he’d ever seen!  Kidney function was normal and I had no infections or problems of any sort.

To be honest I was relieved and yet a bit disappointed.  I was happy to hear that I was in good health, which really is no big surprise, since I live a healthy lifestyle.  I eat well, exercise and never drink or smoke.  But part of me was disappointed.  If I’m in perfect condition, why do I get dehydrated so easily?  Lately, this has been coupled with some fatigue.

I was pretty sure it had to do with stress.  Over the last few years I had to deal with a lot of pressure and my stress levels just went through the roof.  But I had no way of measuring the effect of the stress on me.

Spitting in a Tube

When I discussed this with my wife, who is (a very good) nutritional therapist, she suggested I have my saliva tested.  A saliva analysis would show things that a blood and urine sample would not.  So I spent a day spitting in a test tube over five intervals.  Starting from when I first wake up until midnight.

My wife took the samples with her to the UK on her recent trip (apparently no one knows how to do this kind of analysis here).  The lab later emailed us the results.

The Truth is Finally Revealed

The analysis they did measured two hormone levels, Cortisol and DHEA (which I have no idea what it stands for).  Anyway, it seems that my cortisol levels were low - something blood and urine samples do not show.

Part of my adrenal stress test report

Part of my adrenal stress test report

According to the report: “Overall this is an indication of normal adaptation to both chronic and acute stressors, however there is some variation in the individual timed readings. In the context of a patient with very long-standing stressors (years) it can indicate either good coping/adaptation methods, or represent hormone levels “dropping through” normal ranges on the way to depleted levels after having been over stimulated for many years. In such a case a follow up test in 2 - 3 months is recommended.”

Well, I certainly went through “chronic” and “acute stressors” over the last few years.  I’m proud to have achieved in the last five years what others could not do in twenty.  It’s great being a successful martial artist, entrepreneur and author.  But what many people don’t see is the stress I went through, and the many, many, sleepless nights, and the crying and frustration.

When people express admiration for my achievements I thank them, but I often add that I probably aged ten years in the last five years.  Just getting the Dream Body Centre off the ground was a whole adventure on it’s own (DBC VIP members and long time Zen-Do Times readers know what I’m talking about).

According to my in-house nutritional therapist and mother of my children, I was in what is called “Stage Two Stress.”  And apparently, Stage Three Stress is really bad.

Here’s what she told me.  The adrenal glands release several hormones, and if your hormone levels are imbalanced, you get all kinds of problems.  This effects blood sodium ion levels, potassium and fluid volumes in the body.  Which affects hydration (or in my case, dehydration) levels.

Here are some more interesting facts for you…
When you are stressed, the adrenal glands secrete Cortisol, which is a stress hormone (you could say the brother of adrenaline, which is also a stress hormone, see my self-defence book for a more in-depth discussion of adrenaline).

According to Mrs. Suhail, cortisol helps you deal with stress and it also gives you that “high” you sometimes get when you’re stressed.  HOWEVER, over the long term it’s not good for you and can cause havoc on your system.  Here’s a list of the symptoms prolonged cortisol exposure can cause:

- Fatigue (yep, got that)

- Irritability, agitation (I don’t think I have this, but it seems my wife and people working for me have an entirely different opinion)

- Euphoria (YEEEHA!  I’m one euphoric guy!  That’s why I only buy my CD’s and DVD’s from that place in the Seef Mall)

- Resistance to stress (I can take you baby!  Bring it on!)

- Diabetes (None yet and God willing never)

- Sleep disturbance (what sleep?)

- High blood pressure (Nope!  BP is excellent!)

- High cholesterol and triglycerides (Nope!  Thank God for a fit and healthy lifestyle)

- Muscular weakness + wasting (No wonder I’ve been losing about a kilo a year of weight.  In 2002 I was 83 kg, now I’m 79 kg and sinking…)

- Psychiatric troubles (Kill!  Kill!  Kill!)

- Irregular menses (That’s the monthly thing women get - not relevant here…)

- Weight gain - central obesity (That’s the “apple shape”.  I wouldn’t say I’m apple-shaped but I’ve got a bit more fat on my abdomen than I’d like)

-‘Buffalo hump’ (That’s when you see people with sort of a round hump on the back.  My back has always been slightly rounded, but I’ve got structural scoliosis)

- Red and moon face (Nope…)

- Hirsutism (I have no idea what this means.  I am, and always have been, a Muslim)

- Thin and atrophic skin burns in the sun (I don’t spend much time in the sun…)

- Bruisability (I guess I get bruised in sparring sometimes, but I wouldn’t be able to tell you if it’s more or less than the average person)

- Purple striae (My favourite colour is Zen-Do Yellow)

- Poor wound healing (Dunno, I’ll tell you when I get wounded)

- Proximal sarcopenia (somebody PLEASE get me a medical dictionary.  As far as I know, I’ve never proximally sarcopenged anyone)

Now I finally know what’s “wrong” with me.  It’s strange to be fit and healthy, yet unwell at the same time.

I’m now working on reducing my stress levels.  This will be a bit of a challenge considering all the things I have planned to do over the next 6 months.  I literally have hundreds of things on my To Do list.  Yesterday I worked about 13 hours.  It’s not unusual for me to do 16 hour days, often starting from as early as 4:00 am!

Paying The Price, And Other Thoughts

How do I feel about all this?  To be honest it doesn’t bother me.  I rarely feel sorry for myself, and I’m not telling you this so you bring out the violin and play oh-poor-you melodies.

The other day I was talking to the kids in our Youth Black Belt Club.  I was discussing the second habit of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens, which is “Begin With The End In Mind.”  In a nutshell, it’s about goal setting.

I explained to the kids that the first part of setting your goals is to “count the cost” of the goal.  You have to decide what sacrifices you’re willing to make in order to reach your goals.

Well, part of the price I have to pay for my goals and aspirations is that if affects my health once in a while.  I know many entrepreneurs (especially in the martial arts industry) who were so busy that they’ve sacrificed their families.

They divorce and become estranged from their children.  From the very beginning I made the conscious choice never to let my businesses and my goals and aspirations affect my family.  And I’m glad to tell you that we’re a very closed-knit family.  I’m very close to my kids and I make a point of seeing them daily, even if it’s just for a few minutes.  And then the weekend is dedicated almost entirely to them.  Today I’m planning to leave work “early” at 5:00 pm so I can put them to bed.

I’ll often wake up at 4:00 am so I get enough work done so I’ll be free to have lunch with the kids.  If my cortisol levels go up, and my hormones get messed up as a result, then so be it.  I believe you should never complain about the negative things that can happen as a result of  the path you’ve chosen.

No one forced me on this path, I chose it, and I accept the consequences of it.  Life is always in a Ying-Yan state.  You can’t feel happiness until you’ve tasted sadness and despair.  You can’t revel in the feeling of success until you’ve tasted bitter disappointment and embarrassing failure (which I’ve tasted more times than I care to mention).

Overall, I’m an extremely happy guy living the ideal lifestyle.  I know it’s not perfect, but it’s perfect for me.  No one has the perfect life.  No one - and if they say they do, they’re probably lying.

The truth is there’s no such thing as a perfect life.  You have to decide what perfect means to you, and try to get there, and stay there, as often as you can.

So What Can You Learn From All This?

Well, first of all, don’t whine and complain when things go bad - no matter how bad they are.  Success, wealth and happiness NEVER make their way to professional whiners - NEVER.  They only come to proactive people.  It’s one of the laws of the universe.

Second, make sure you have goals and set yourself on the path to achieving them, but count the cost.  Make sure you’re willing to make the necessary sacrifices.

Third, watch those stress levels!  Just because you’ve got goals and aspirations doesn’t mean you neglect yourself and your health.  Take time off to do relaxing things, as I’m doing more of now.

Fourth, have a healthy lifestyle!  I think I’d be ten times worse if it weren’t for my healthy lifestyle.  Thank God for my martial arts training - and Yoga and proper eating habits.  I also abhor (I mean REALLY abhor) alcohol and smoking.

If you’re stressed, and have a bad lifestyle, and smoke and drink… God help you my friend.  Stage Three Stress is gonna get you!  Or worse, you might find yourself collapsing one day and waking up surrounded by a couple of robed, winged, blurry figures trying to decide which direction to take you, “up or “down.”

Do take care of yourself.  Someone once told me the reason they weren’t exercising and eating well is because they wanted to enjoy their life -  “life is too short.”  That’s exactly why you need to take care of yourself, life’s too short NOT to exercise, eat well, and live well.

If you won’t do it for yourself, do it for those you love…

That’s all for today my friend.  Thanks for taking the time to read this and I’ll talk to you soon.

The Seven Books That Changed My Life - Part 3 of 7

Posted October 21, 2008 by suhailalgosaibi
Categories: Books, Personal/Family, Videos

How To Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie

I love this book!  It’s a really old classic written in the 1930’s.  Dale Carnegie offers some really interesting advice on how to influence people, and to make them want to do things for you.

Please note that this book is not a hypnosis, or how-to-manipulate-people type of book.  If offers honest to goodness advice that can really change you life.

I hope you like the video, and I look forward to seeing your comments.

A Quick Canary Update

Posted October 17, 2008 by suhailalgosaibi
Categories: Personal/Family, The Canary Chronicles

It seems the name “Shikoba” was a bit difficult for the kids to remember, so I’ve renamed the bird Cookie!  A lot easier to remember, especially for a 4 and 1/2 and 6 and 1/2 year old.

The bird has not started singing so most likely he’s a she.  Today she finally ate from my hand!  I’ll tame that bird yet… inshallah.

Talk soon.

The New Canary!

Posted October 8, 2008 by suhailalgosaibi
Categories: Personal/Family, The Canary Chronicles

“Sensei I have a gift for you.”

It’s Monday evening around 6:15 pm when Zen-Do student, and part-time Instructor Extraordinaire Hussain Al-Fardan walks up to me and says, “Sensei I have a gift for you.”

“Is it honey?” I reply.

“No” he says, “it’s a surprise.  It’s in your office.” He says this with a rather smug expression on his face.

The reason I asked if it was honey is because Hussain has kind of become my official, pure Iranian honey supplier.  He’s also one of the most generous people I know.

Anyway, I stepped in to my office and there it was, sitting in a small blue cage, a brand new yellow canary.  The canary seemed just as surprised and confused as I was.

There was an awkward silence as bird and human stared at each other for a few moments.

I then started laughing and thanked Hussain for his gift.  I teased him and said I’d call the canary Hussaino.  I should have blogged about wanting a new Ferrari!  (If you don’t know what I’m talking about, see my post entitled The Dead Canary.)

I asked my Senior Instructor Vinod Joseph to take the canary home.  As he left I called my wife and I told her I was sending her a surprise courtesy of Hussain.

“Is it big?” she asked.

“Um… not really.  You’ll see.”  I said and ended the call.

A few minutes later she called back and was laughing too.  “You should have blogged about something more valuable, like a Ferarri,” she said.  I smiled…

The New Canary

The New Canary

Well, we now have two canaries in the house again.  A yellow fronted canary, and a just-plain-yellow canary.  According to Wikipedia (the world’s most reliable source of information), the breed is called Serinus flaviventris.

I’m not sure if it’s male or female.  So far the bird did not sing, so most likely it’s a “she”.  Anyway, I decided to give the bird a unisex name just in case.

I spent a few minutes online searching for interesting unisex names and came up with “Shikoba”, which in Choctaw native American means “feather”.

Shikoba doesn’t look as frightened and as nervous as the old bird, so I decided to try and hand feed him, to gage his receptiveness.  He seems fairly outgoing (as far as a bird can be outgoing).

It turns out little Shikoba is also cheeky and quite smart.  He managed to escape from the cage while I was trying to feed him!

Here’s the video of me trying to lure him using a piece of banana!  Notice his expression after I caught him :)

How did I catch him?  Remember I’m a martial arts master and I used my Ninja speed :)

Talk to you soon…

The Spanish Police, Child Pornography and Lessons in Child Safety

Posted October 2, 2008 by suhailalgosaibi
Categories: Child Safety

One of the subjects I’m very passionate about is child safety.  You could say it’s one of my obsessions.  I researched this topic quite intensely and have even done a qualification in this field.  And I’m planning an intensive course for parents, and my next book will probably be on the same topic.  I’ll keep you updated on these.

Anyway, the Gulf Daily News published a news story today about how Spanish Police carried out an operation arresting over 121 people  suspected of involvement in Internet Child Pornography.

Hooray!  At last some good news on this subject!  I’ve re-printed the article below.  Please read it and then see my own comments afterwards.

MADRID: Spanish police have staged their biggest ever operation against Internet child pornography, arresting 121 people suspected of involvement in a network that reached 75 countries.
A further 96 people were accused of possession and distribution of Internet child pornography, but are not in custody, police said yesterday.
Those arrested came from a wide variety of social and professional backgrounds and included airline pilots, caretakers, taxi drivers and bank employees. They ranged in age from minors to old-age pensioners.
Two of those arrested produced their own pornographic material and the victims included members of their own families.
More than 800 police personnel took part in Operation Carousel.
They staged 210 raids nationwide and seized 347 computer hard discs, 1,186 CDs and DVDs and 36 laptop computers as well as “millions of archives of videos and photographs some of which show extremely harsh abuse of minors.”
Police launched the investigation last year in co-operation with their Brazilian counterparts.
With the help of specialised police in various countries, they recorded 18,000 transfers of paedophile material in 75 countries.
Investigators identified 250 residences throughout Spain where the pornographic files were uploaded and then distributed.
Spanish police have identified the fight against child pornography on the Internet as one of their priorities, and the unit in charge of such operations is one of the most internationally recognised.
Investigators have been helped by the use of a programme known as “Hispalis”, which allows them to detect and provide names and addresses of Internet users as they log on to illegal websites.
The arrests were made last week and four of those in custody are minors, police said. The operation began in July 2007.
Most of the suspects are Spaniards, police said without naming the other nationalities. The detainees used peer-to-peer, or P2P, servers to share at least three download sites.
Last February, police published for the first time photos of suspected paedophiles to get the public’s help in identifying and locating them.
The authorities said they had arrested more than 1,200 people in connection with child pornography on the Internet in the last five years.

Here are some of my comments and observation on the topic of child safety

- They arrest 121 people in a network that reached 75 countries!  Seventy Five! Child abuse and pornography is an ugly spectrum that exists everywhere!  Please don’t think that just because we live in a Muslim society that it doesn’t happen here - it does.

- “Those arrested came from a wide variety of social and professional backgrounds and included airline pilots, caretakers, taxi drivers and bank employees”.  A big problem the cause of Child safety faces is the belief that child sexual predators and pedophiles (those sexually interested in children) somehow come from poor backgrounds, or from lower social classes.  This is absolutely not true!  They come from all social backgrounds and professions.

They could be doctors, lawyers, religious leaders (yes even Imams), child caretakers and even counsellors hired to help victims of child abuse!  It could be your neighbour, your cousin, your nephew or your best friend.  Child molesters don’t look like child molesters.  They look like, act and behave like you and me.  A very scary thought I know.

- “Two of those arrested produced their own pornographic material and the victims included members of their own families.”  Here’s the real shocker, over 80% of child abuse happens from someone the child knows!  Often times (but not always) it happens from the people that are closest to the child, parents, siblings, uncles or cousins.

As an aside, the words “don’t talk to strangers” are virtually useless advice.  One reason is that, as I just mentioned, most child abuse happens from someone the child knows.  The other reason is because your child doesn’t really know what a “stranger” is.

Everyone your child knows was at some point a stranger.  Is the bus driver a stranger?  What about the teacher?  The school janitor? The parent of a friend?  The guy that sells the tickets in the cinema?  The doctor your child sees once or twice a year?  His second cousin that he only sees in Eid?  What about a cop?

I hope you get my point.  There are much better ways to educate your child on safety than “don’t talk to strangers.”  I’ll discuss this in more detail in my upcoming course.  Please look out for that.

- “They staged 210 raids nation wide and seized 347 computer hard discs, 1,186 CDs and DVDs and 36 laptop computers as well as ‘millions of archives of videos and photographs some of which show extremely harsh abuse of minors.’”  An interesting habit of pedophiles, they are hoarders!  The main reason they get caught is because they loathe to get rid of their collection of child pornography.  Even after they get caught they often plead with their captors not to destroy their collection!  Is this sick or what!

They also have a need to validate their interests and are constantly searching for someone who shares their interests.  Investigators often pose as fellow pedophiles online and get them to open up and share parts of their collection.

- “Spanish police have identified the fight against child pornography on the Internet as one of their priorities, and the unit in charge of such operations is one of the most internationally recognised.”  Good for them!  Probably the main obstacle to more children being protected and saved from abuse is ignorance.  It’s really ignorance on a massive scale.  Ignorance of parents, the education system, the law enforcement agencies, the courts, the government, etc.

But it seems the message is getting out there slowly.  I feel that every year that passes the topic of child safety gets more attention and that people are learning more about it all the time.

Having said that however, what is being reported and discovered when it comes to child pornography is probably just the tip of the iceberg.  We still have a long way to go.  Some third world countries have organised child prostitution rings that involved thousands of children.  The struggle ahead is long and hard, but God bless organisations like the Spanish Police that have made this a priority for themselves.

What you can do right now
You can do your bit to save children too.  Here in Bahrain there is an organisation called Be Free.  They are Bahrain’s first Anti Child Neglect and Abuse programme.  They conduct educational seminars for children all over the country, and provide some counselling as well.  They have struggled in the first few years to overcome prejudices and the misguided belief that these sorts of things don’t happen in Islamic/Arab countries like Bahrain.

I’ve known them and provided consulting for them for quite some years now.  Like many charities, they are living from hand to mouth.  It would help them greatly if you donated some money or in any way provided them with some assistance.  In my view, protecting children from harm is one of the greatest, kindest things a person can do.

Their website is http://www.be-free.info.  The site also has their contact details.  Please do what you can.

Thanks for taking the time to read this, and in the Eid spirit, I thank you in advance for donating to Be Free.

Talk to you soon.

HAPPY EID!

Posted September 30, 2008 by suhailalgosaibi
Categories: Uncategorized

Dear friend,

May I take this opportunity to wish you and your loved ones a glorious and very blessed Eid.

Eid Mubarak and have a great day!

Suhail Algosaibi and family

Stupid Transformer!

Posted September 29, 2008 by suhailalgosaibi
Categories: Personal/Family

Laith With Optimus

Laith With Optimus

It’s Saturday morning.  I’m dragging my feet to the living room, after another non-restful night.  (Ramadan is having it’s toll on me. It’s not that I go to sleep late, but it’s takes me forever to fall sleep again after sohoor and fajr prayer.)

Laith looks at me excitedly, “BABA LOOK!“, he shouts.  He was showing me his brand new transformer!  Or “stransformer” as he calls it.  It was Optimus Prime, benign and wise leader of the Autobots, in all his glory!  A gift from his grandmother.

Laith was so happy, and it me made me even happier to see him so happy.  I too used to like transformers when I was a kid, and I can understand his enthusiasm.

-TRANSFORMERS!  ROBOTS IN DISGUISE!-

He had the transformer in car form, and wanted to show me how to transform him into robot form.  To be honest, it was quite a complicated process, so I helped him with it.

-TRANSFORMERS!  ROBOTS IN THE SKYS!-

So far so good… now he asked me to turn him back into the car form…

It took me half an hour!

I’m not kidding!  How the heck is a 4 year old supposed to transform the stupid toy, if it takes an adult half an hour!

To add insult to injury, as I was trying to transform stupid Optimus I broke off a piece of his many delicate bits.  Stupid made-in-china-toys!  Thankfully, I managed to clip the broken bit back on….

I don’t think I like transformers as much as I used to…

-AUTOBOTS,  ROLL OUT!-

Optimus Prime

Optimus Prime

The Dead Canary

Posted September 21, 2008 by suhailalgosaibi
Categories: Personal/Family, The Canary Chronicles

It’s 3:07 pm and we just got back from a burial.  It was Maryam’s funeral.  Maryam was our yellow-fronted canary.  The maid found her dead this morning in the cage she shares with the other canary.

My wife told me that our daughter Selma (6 and 1/2) had all kinds of questions this morning about Maryam.  For one thing, if she was dead, why were her eyes still open?  What happens when you die?  Can you feel anything when you die?  How does God take someone when they die? And on and on.

The Strange Canary Story

About 9 or 10 months ago we were at a small gathering at some friends’ house.  Um and Abu Junaid offered us their new canaries.  Apparently their kids won them in a birthday party.

We agreed and took them home with us.  Selma and Laith were really excited the next morning when they saw them.  We let them name them.  We thought they’d give them pet names like Tweety and Gonzo, but instead they named them Ziyad and Marym!  After their school friends.

Being someone who doesn’t do anything in half measures I decided to make “canarying” my new hobby!  I went on amazon and bought 4 or 5 books on canaries.  I also bought a DVD from someone called the Canary Whisperer - really, I’m not joking.  There really is a Canary Whisperer!

You could say that within a few weeks I became a bit of a canary expert.  I first took them to the vet to make sure they were healthy.  There I found out their breed - yellow-fronted canaries.  Really quite attractive.

A Yellow-Fronted Canary

A Yellow-Fronted Canary

I also found out from my reading that only male canaries sing.  Apparently, it’s the testosterone that makes them sing.  In fact, a scientist actually did a study on the effects of testosterone on canaries, and he discovered that even female canaries start singing when injected with testosterone.

Obviously, this was a scientist with a lot of spare time.  I suppose their weren’t many openings at the local cancer research centre, so he was compelled to study canaries and testosterone…. I can just imagine Laith coming up to me one day “Dad, I want to be a canary scientist!”

“Nooooooooooo!”

Canary scienctificking must be right at the bottom of the science hierarchy, somewhere just below falcon claw studying and above dung beetle logistics.

Anyway, I digress… back to my canaries.

Like I said, I became a bit of a canary expert and decided on a new hobby.  I found out that you can actually tame canaries (because ours were not human-freindly at all), and I took it upon myself to tame them.

The research material I consulted suggested separating the pair as they would respond better to training/taming when separated.  I did that and for several weeks spent about half an hour a day trying to tame Maryam. (I decided to try Maryam because she was less fidgety than Ziyad)

Anyway, within just 24 hours I managed to get her to eat from my hand - but that’s all I ever managed to do.  I tried to put her on my shoulder and develop a “bond” with her.  I stuck it out for several weeks but eventually lost patience. This bird was just not interested in being tamed.  I even emailed the Canary Whisperer but she never replied.

So I concluded that this bird was tool old to be tamed, and that I was too impatient.  Being an ultra-busy person I didn’t feel that that daily half-an-hour was the best use of my time.  Besides, a hobby is supposed to bring you joy, not stress.

So I decided on a different direction.  Why try to tame two grown canaries when you can have them mate and lay eggs?  I could then hand rear the chicks!  For the briefest of flashes I saw myself starting a canary breeding side business… but that thought was soon  filed in the section of my brain marked “Suhail’s very many dead business ideas.”

I read all there was to read on canary mating and got very excited all over again.  I ordered a special canary food from the US and set up Maryam and Ziad’s cage in such a way as to maximise the chances of romance :)

Apparently, the mating season was between March and July.  In fact, you could even artificially alter their mating season by adjusting the lighting in their environment!  I bet you always wanted to know that.

Well, March came and went… followed by April, May, then June and finally July and still no eggs!  I even placed an artificial nest in their cage hoping to stimulate them, but to no avail.  Maryam always seemed a bit week and slow.  And I finally concluded that she was just too old to lay eggs.

I guess I was right.  I suspect she just died of old age this morning.    The maid created a really nice coffin out of a tissue box, and we had a little ceremony in the garden.  Rest in Peace Maryam.

Maryam's Coffin

Maryam

The question is what do I do with the other one?  I really don’t care much for pets that you can’t interact with.  So I guess I’ll try to find him a younger mate that he can… eh, “do it” with.

I like the idea of having chicks that are hand-reared.  Apparently, once tamed canaries can be very loving and affectionate companions.

Well my friend, that’s our canary story.  All flowers and condolences should be sent to Zen-Do in Al-Hamala….

Talk to you soon.